So, I published the last post and the next morning I went into labour at 5.30 am.
Dilemma was the overflow of information, the drowning amounts of advices from people that had no idea whatsoever about anything about my strenght of will, lack of their own, or knowledge of my lifestyle and body. Pretty similar to the third trimester thing. I had recent mothers telling me how there was no way to not get an epidural and that natural birth is like a myth…
It was clear to me, that doctors decide, if a c-section was necessary, or whatever, but I really projected a wholly natural birth in my head.
Culturally the whole approach towards the procedure of giving birth goes pretty different in different countries.
“Just shoot me up with epidural” Spain.
Fucking crazy! Attitude of want no pain. In the preparation classes I was the only one, who had it clear, that I wanted natural and another couple of girls saying that they will see.
Most people that had epidural tells you that you cannot go without.
At the end, you can whatever you want, as far as no medical intervention is needed.
On the other hand, Hungarians see giving birth as something very natural and most would never even consider epidural with a well going birth, not even the younger generation.
Hungry of episiotomy Hungary.
Or maybe only my mom. She had tearing so she told me a million times to make sure to be cut first before tearing… Well, I did the very contrary, I wanted no episiotomy. All natural. In fact doctors are ther to know when to cut if needed. (The scary bit is that in some cases the tearing can go upwards, which is a nonoNOOOO, as for telling you the risky bits to consider)
Obviously I did massive preparation, I did the perinal massage from week 32 about 5 times a week, 15-20 mins. I also religiously drank the raspberry leaf tea. And I practice Prana Nadi, that is my magic for life.
Acrobats get C section.
This was the worst case scenario for me, so I listened to the midwife, and my body, quit abs for the last trimester and mentalized that I will need to relax my ab muscles, breathe and control and let go.
This is where all women start hating me…
I had a quite express, all natural birth. Less than 12 hours between the first contraction and baby. No epidural, no episiotomy, no stitches, no painkillers.
Contraction started 5.30 am, I was accepted in hospital at 2 pm, waters broke 4 pm and my son was born at 4.45 pm.
I would do the whole again the same way, although there were certain screams of I cannot any more.
(I just figured I skip the not so gruesome, but details)
Get as much information as you can, expect even the unexpected, but don’t freak out. I went to the preparation classes they have here, researched a lot about birth in general, talked to pretty much all mothers I knew, and also was aware of my family history (very fast births).
Do the perineal massage!! It is a great pain in the ass, but it does work magic!! I used pranarom’s perineal elasticity oil, did it about 5 times a week.
I did Prana Nadi, you do whatever you please, but find a way to relax.
Having the father there is the best, it is the business of you two, not anyone else. (not your mother, and the least some stupid friend)
Relax, listen to the midwife! I was amazed how professional she was, she didn’t even touch me, just guided with her voice, amazing.
At the end birth is a natural process of life and the less doctors need to be involved the better for you and your little one. (yet, I do recommend giving birth at a hospital just in case)
For the crossfitty types:
If you think you are hard core, better try natural birth, bitch!