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The aerial artist and the postpartum

A quite busy time, as my son is already over 2 months old and I have not find the time to write this.

Once again this time I either can say that this is some kind of a scene of suspense movie, where the crazy mother wants to strangle her own child…

Then again, I had the easiest of births, so I was mobile from the moment I finished giving birth, I could get myself from the birth bed to my hospital bed by my own and refused all painkillers I was offered through my stay. (I am no masochist, I just did not have pain)

Here they have us in about 48 hours. So I was out by Tuesday afternoon.

You obviously need to break down at a certain point after such an intense experience. My breakdown came, when we arrived home and I saw how unready all was, and dirty and messy… we even left a candle burning next to bathtub on the day of the birth, so you can imagine…

So I had a good cry.

Then life went on.

My input:

Having a 24 hours helper comes in veeery handy at least the first week. (in my case my Mom) I felt the need of it. Pretty much any help goes from someone who have seen babies before (¡¡¡¡muy very important!!!). Before accepting my mom to come we thought through a cleaning lady, but decided to let my mom stay in with me. I was all mobile, but to recover the best you need to lie flat and rest, and that is hard with a baby, also you would need 15 hours straight sleep, which if you breastfeed is just impossible.

Good thing about this time, that you actually can’t give a fuck about anything that is not your baby, when I was told I could not believe, but now I know.

I would have been cool having help only the first week, but you gotta let the grandparents play.

Things I learned:

It is not always the boobie. The first day, whenever my son cried I was putting him on the boobie, nope, he also poops, gets sleepy without finding the way to fall asleep, tummy aches, etc.

The pediatricians can be very… not nice…

Postpartum classes are great and useful

Breastfeeding rulez

Cloth diapers are awesome!!!
(although the lack of skin irritation is not guaranteed, baby boy had irritation on his belly from the pee and hot weather mix)

Nursing bras

Looks like the world thinks nursing mothers’ sizes start from 90 C… and on top it we are so amorf that our boobs are tight close together…
I mean I’m a 75 B and my boobs are wider apart, than the general nursing bra’s measure… add the fact that they are expensive too.
So if you are not an amorf being with 90 C plus size I have a cheap and pretty link for you, this is the bra that worked best for me, 100% cotton and very good quality, especially for being chinese, and on top of it cute and the opening method is really funky and comfy.

Nursing bra

Training (or the lack of it):

On the third week I was finally alone with my baby and the daddy!!!! I was so happy!!! I was eager to get back to training…

Which is hardly ever happening ever since…

I guess I will be able to set up a doable ruotine soon. Until now I was caught up procrastinating (obviously), between too sleepy, too tired, too late…

Also we are just cleaning our “local” up so my pole and weights and machines can be used.

In this almost 3 months I did a contorsion class, stretching and abs now and then and a “leg” day(doing 1/3 of my general leg warm up) last monday… which caused me loads of muscle ache…

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The aerial artist and the pregnancy – part 5 – magical natural birth

So, I published the last post and the next morning I went into labour at 5.30 am.

Information overflow

Dilemma was the overflow of information, the drowning amounts of advices from people that had no idea whatsoever about anything about my strenght of will, lack of their own, or knowledge of my lifestyle and body. Pretty similar to the third trimester thing. I had recent mothers telling me how there was no way to not get an epidural and that natural birth is like a myth…

It was clear to me, that doctors decide, if a c-section was necessary, or whatever, but I really projected a wholly natural birth in my head.

Culturally the whole approach towards the procedure of giving birth goes pretty different in different countries.

“Just shoot me up with epidural” Spain.

Fucking crazy! Attitude of want no pain. In the preparation classes I was the only one, who had it clear, that I wanted natural and another couple of girls saying that they will see.

Most people that had epidural tells you that you cannot go without.
At the end, you can whatever you want, as far as no medical intervention is needed.

On the other hand, Hungarians see giving birth as something very natural and most would never even consider epidural with a well going birth, not even the younger generation.

Hungry of episiotomy Hungary.

Or maybe only my mom. She had tearing so she told me a million times to make sure to be cut first before tearing… Well, I did the very contrary, I wanted no episiotomy. All natural. In fact doctors are ther to know when to cut if needed. (The scary bit is that in some cases the tearing can go upwards, which is a nonoNOOOO, as for telling you the risky bits to consider)

Obviously I did massive preparation, I did the perinal massage from week 32 about 5 times a week, 15-20 mins. I also religiously drank the raspberry leaf tea. And I practice Prana Nadi, that is my magic for life.

Acrobats get C section.

This was the worst case scenario for me, so I listened to the midwife, and my body, quit abs for the last trimester and mentalized that I will need to relax my ab muscles, breathe and control and let go.

The birth

This is where all women start hating me…

May 31.

I had a quite express, all natural birth. Less than 12 hours between the first contraction and baby. No epidural, no episiotomy, no stitches, no painkillers.

Contraction started 5.30 am, I was accepted in hospital at 2 pm, waters broke 4 pm and my son was born at 4.45 pm.

I would do the whole again the same way, although there were certain screams of I cannot any more.

(I just figured I skip the not so gruesome, but details)

My recommendation:

Get as much information as you can, expect even the unexpected, but don’t freak out. I went to the preparation classes they have here, researched a lot about birth in general, talked to pretty much all mothers I knew, and also was aware of my family history (very fast births).

Do the perineal massage!! It is a great pain in the ass, but it does work magic!! I used pranarom’s perineal elasticity oil, did it about 5 times a week.

I did Prana Nadi, you do whatever you please, but find a way to relax.

Having the father there is the best, it is the business of you two, not anyone else. (not your mother, and the least some stupid friend)

Relax, listen to the midwife! I was amazed how professional she was, she didn’t even touch me, just guided with her voice, amazing.

At the end birth is a natural process of life and the less doctors need to be involved the better for you and your little one. (yet, I do recommend giving birth at a hospital just in case)

For the crossfitty types:

If you think you are hard core, better try natural birth, bitch!

😛

The aerial artist and the pregnancy – part 4 – Third trimesterish

We are soo approaching the due date!

So what can I say?

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Photo by the amazing Danny Gibert!

Third trimester horrors

Everywhere you are explained how desperately hard this time should be. Expect peeing yourself, massive lower back pains, etc.

For me almost nothing about the third trimester horrors told are true.

It is only now, the last month, that I can get quite heavy in the evenings, yet it is nothing to exceptionally complain about.

I am slow walking. Very slow, that is true, groceries have never been this heavy either, but you have the faithful granny trolley to the rescue, so no problem!

Last week till due date note:
Ok, now I can only do the shopping that include little walking.

Chill and back off of training

I finally realized why circus people tell you to chill and back off.

So what do I have to proove and to whom?

That I am miss crossfit universe?

I can still rock inverts, when I really shouldn’t?

My mindset changed.

Baby and his health comes first, I will still have the rest of my life to tangle and perform and train, but my little one only has this 9 months to grow to his best health to face the outside world all alone.

So around 7 months I felt, that I should back out of aerials, I already stopped to invert at the 6th month as my little one started to not like it. (Heavy kicking afterwards)

Stretching

Now I do a weekly session or two of stretching/contorsion with Dasha, so my flexibility is still in quite a shape, except for the back, of which we have no current information.

So far I feel that this is soothing the widening of my hips and easing, that strange muscle ache like sensation that comes with it.

Food

Thank god that horrible gluten craving went away in the second half of the trimester, now I feel like radish, like radish with salt. o.O

The end of my career

From the beginning I really find it, can’t find the right words here, odd, or plain malicious, how people approached this. Questions like so are you selling your performance clothes kept creeping up… and I was like ‘NO, why would I?’.

It is really not nice to assume that a still emerging circus artist, to not say, still student (only because I am mostly self taught) would just drop her shit and leave what is her entire life as of until pregnancy.
From strangers this should really not matter, but from friends it’s kinda offensive, gives you the hint where they actually want to see you… in the gutter, ugly, run down and old, crying how having a baby ruined you… (which I think is still a way sorry excuse for anything)

I already had the judgemental bad eye from a ‘friend’, who had her flight of only a month of crossfit (already skipping classes), because I was all the way sick at the beginning… like I was obligated to not have nauseas, becuase she knew people that didn’t…

How long after will I be back?

Hell, no idea, might be 2 weeks-4 weeks-6 weeks or 6 months. Yes, I have all the time I need and zero hurries. Training as soon as I can and allowed.

Breastfeeding is important.

I hope to be able to start picking up training after 3-4 weeks or at most 6 weeks. The contorsion classes maybe earlier, so we see if we can get some benefits of that supposed relaxin, that so far only made my hips click, but nothing with my general flexibility.

Everyone has a story here, which is not necessary true…

My mom’s sob story is all about how my grandma was a horrid useless bitch, who was unable to help her and her postpartum was terrible the first time… yet she had grandpa and greatgrandma, so I wonder how that wasn’t just quite enough…

Other stories include the general she had to leave her studies and sacrafice her career, blabla. Well, that, my mom did not, she was one proud mom taking my brother to university. (Then again her stories needs to be approached with a certain caution, as the change more than the weather)

I see how I will need help, I know, but let’s just turn this around a bit.

Do I need help or do I need the lack of people asking shit from me?

The second case is the true one.

Watch your friends. I learned.

So, I had my self claimed ‘besty’ watch me in my kitchen with heavy nauseas trying to cook, comment ‘Oh, if you are really sick, you can sit down and finish the cooking later’…. erh, thanks bitch, how about getting your ass off the couch and helping?

Yet, a real friend came over to see me after work, I had lunch prepared, which she didn’t even want to accept and after it she cleaned all the dishes without a question, she did not sat down expecting her coffee to be served.

And ever since I refuse to see toxic ‘old’ friends, or even talking about toxic topics for me. I have all the time on earth, but not for that. Just say you are busy preparing baby stuff, it is a great excuse.

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That for now.

The aerial artist and the pregnancy – part 3 – Second trimester

Confessions

Feels strangely natural.

Up untiI month 6 I looked like I was in my 3rd-4th month.
I have the smallest belly ever, but an exceptionally healthy pregnancy (for all you paleo naysayers)

From the first time you note the babymovement to the last weeks of the trimester it gets cooler and cooler, now I know if its his hands or head and he responds to movement and calling.

On the meanwhile I get heavier in the evening, I start to sleep a lot again and being sleepy and tired just because.

Baby’s movements are getting stronger every day. He is very active.

Training

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Well, month two-four was a mess, no strength, no training whatsoever.

So, what you need to know, the nauseas don’t disappear from evening to next morning, when month 4 (salvation) sets in…Month 4 was regaining some of my strength, one day in, one day out of nausea, and around the end the nauseas were finally absent.

I could start training.

It took me long to find, what to do. Pregnant workouts are too meek for us, doing your training is too much and too risky, so after strolling the internet for answers and coming up with not much, I decided to seek professional help.

So if you are an aerial artist, get to an aerial trainer, who has qualified to teach pregnant woman too. I give you the Barcelona answer, Bea Contreras. Great teacher in general for what I see, and for us pregnant here, she is the salvation. The exercises are great to keep your core muscles and aerial fitness. Surely this is not the show offey training you would do, you look more like a spider on the wall, waiting to not be noticed. 😀

I give you some hints, no jumping, no power whatsoevers, absolutely no situps, nothing that feels uncomfortable, and nothing that contracts your abs too much.

Lot of static core exercises.

I still have two more weeks to invert. Here note: I invert once or twice a class, very controlled and slow inverts with slow descents. Obviously, you need to be a skilled aerialist to do this already without pregnancy l. I mainly do it to calm my nerves with the fact that I still can. It is getting harder and I think by the time I shouldn’t I either will be able. (third trimester)

Good news, these core exercise trainings can go until you give birth, if you can..

Abs

It’s not that you loose then, it’s that you cannot use them. Because they hurt! Or at least feel very uncomfortable.

So now I look like a tiny bag of potatoes, when I roll out of bed. Turning to side, helping with my arms. I had to say goodbye to my general power sit up jump out of bed ‘routine’. Once again, I could, but I shouldn’t.

We are also backing up on abs as a whole on training.

My midwife told me it is already time to back up to mild stretching only, because I am too muscular and for a natural birth I need to have as relaxed abs as it can be.

I take her advice and am gradually taking back. Week 28, no inverts any more, either abs.

It is a dilemma to back off all the way or not… The inner aerialists panics in me, while the mom wants the best for the baby. I take a middle path by my personal logic and knowledge of my body.

Sleep

Month 5. Put a pillow below the side of your belly… Really. My nights were somwhat sleepless until I figured this.

Food

We are very healthy, so my midwife said, eat whatever you are eating to be this healthy, so I do.

Honestly, it is not black magic to eat well. You have google, in this we are friends, unlike in negative advice… Look for recipes, variations.

Most importantly.

Eat fresh!!!

Forget the supermarket! Do your groceries at the freshest places possible. Meat shop, veggie and fruit shop. If you can, find the ones that have the freshest products.

Right now I am very happy with casa Ametller, the veggies are delicious, and you have the 24 or 12 hour stickers. Superfresh. Also great goat and sheep yogurts on a good price.

Eat colorful! Eat varied!

Tadamm, that is all.

I cheat more than general nowadays. (I have a serious croissant craving going on)

I was never good digesting raw stuff, so I keep my raw eatings to fruits mostly, I oven, cook and steam veggies.

Titbits and thoughts

It runs through my head how I had this conversation with a friend about not wanting children and wanting to travel and see the world and how that changed all of a sudden…

Never tell wanna be cloth diapering moms they cannot or it’s a crazy idea, least use the term, “You’ll see how you end up using normal diapers….”

“Normal diapers” are not fucking normal!!! I understand how babies can have super diarrheas, that for travel it might not be the best idea, etc. But going straight to the notorious ” Honey you’ll see…”

Honey, you’ll see how in the real world you will not get a job with that pink hair/amount of visible tattoos…

You’ll see, there’s no way to become a circus artist if you were not born into circus, or were not a gymnast…

I hate the”you’ll see…”-s

Meaning.

You’ll see how you will fail, but I won’t.

Now you’ll see!

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